We’re harder on ourselves than we need to be. We place extreme pressure on ourselves to be great, extraordinary and better. We always end up hurting ourselves because we are always looking to fulfill the constant need to not be who we are.
There is a race that takes place in our hearts and minds, and it urges us to find every single flaw as fast as we can, list them, and try to change them, and most of us are able to fulfill this urge/calling, some of us even manage to go above and beyond! But in the end we see that the race has done absolutely nothing for us. Instead when we’re at the finish line we find ourselves consumed with self-hatred, anger, and shame. The never-ending search has left us exhausted and , and as a result we bring ourselves right back to square one.
We also tend to think people are judging us in their minds and have x-ray vision because they are able to identify every flaw we have, so we cover ourselves up, so no one will confirm the horrible “truths” we think and feel about ourselves. We may not realize it but if someone had the power to be able to see right through us, we would be devastated, because we would have no defense and our worst moments would be exposed.
But are we psychic? Most of us don’t have access to every single thought someone has about us, so we mustn’t fear being ourselves despite every fiber of our being urging us to be someone … anyone else! But let’s say we were exposed to someone who had access to every single detail about us, our decisions, and actions. This is a nightmare because they’d see every nasty part of our being right? Yes that’s true but what about the good moments? What, you’re telling me you don’t have any good moments? Your good side exists, even if you feel it doesn’t surpass the bad, it exists. There have been moments where you have made someone laugh, someone has smiled because of you, someone has done something as simple as saving you a seat, giving you a hug, someone had had good thoughts about you! It may be hard to believe, but for every negative thing you can say or think about yourself, something positive is ready and waiting to rival it. This would be a good practice to enforce. Of course there are always parts of ourselves that need improvement but we cannot move on without acknowledging that we are good enough, because doing so will give us the fuel we need to do better.
You also have a gift that no one else has, you have access to the whole story. Others are only exposed to fragment’s, bits and pieces. You have lived through very single moment of your life, you are most familiar with the painful moments, the hardest moments, and the best moments. So even if you are your harshest critic, cut yourself some slack because you’re doing the best you can, and that is to be applauded, believe it or not.
Thank you for reading, and before you find something more entertaining to do, please read the tips and tricks section for well.. tips and tricks you can enforce to clear the muddle in your mind. Please note that today’s tip and trick is not to be done for Every. Single. Negative. Thought, but only for the ones that bother you the most.
Tips and tricks- Try searching for a good thought for every bad thought that bothers you. This may be fun or very annoying and tedious but once you do find that tidbit of info you need, you’ll be very pleased.